• sarawelburn

One Month Medical School Update

Updated: Oct 6, 2018

Exactly one month ago today, Kyle attended his first day of medical school!! How crazy is that?! In this last month we have learned so much about ourselves, our marriage, and what we want out of our shared life together. We LOVE being married and we look at this next phase in life (this next R E A L L Y L O N G phase of our life) as our next great adventure!

When you tell people that you and your significant other are off to medical school, people are very quick to jump in and tell you how hard it’s going to be. They say things like “But doesn’t that take like a million years? I could never do school for that long” or “Get ready to never see him again!” or -my personal favorite- “Oh yikes! Good luck with that!” Honestly, if I hadn’t been nervous before all that, I was definitely terrified afterwards.

We were told to expect the worst and hope for the best so that’s what we did going into our first few weeks. And this is what happened.

Here’s what a typical day in the life of Kyle and Sara is like in medical school. Kyle will wake up at 6am, exercise, get ready, read his scriptures, and get to campus a little before 8am. Then he has classes from 8am to Noon, lunch with some med school friends on campus, and hours of studying with groups and on his own on campus til 6pm. Then he comes home, we have an hour together where we eat dinner and talk, and then he studies in our home office until 9:30 or 10pm when we go on a quick walk outside together and then get ready and go to bed.

Rinse. And. Repeat.

I'll get up at about 9am, exercise, get ready for the day, and then spend the day at home working on my photography business, cleaning the apartment, grocery shopping, etc. For those of you who know me pretty well, you know that I really don't like cooking. Like REALLY don't like cooking. Kyle made all of our meals in our undergrad because he loves to cook and I - like mentioned above - really don't. But since medical school was going to take so much more time than our undergrad, Kyle and I decided it would be best if I handled the grocery shopping and cooking. Well I am happy to report that I have cooked dinner almost every night for the last month and neither Kyle nor I have come down with food poisoning or any other food-related malady! That, my friends, is success ;)

Kyle and I are best friends. Some couples need time away from each other; Kyle and I dread even an hour apart. And we went from doing everything together (driving to class, studying in between classes, driving home, eating dinner, studying late into the night, etc.) to only spending an hour and a half together each day. And honestly, it's been kind of rough. Everyone warned us that our time together would drop exponentially, but it's one thing to hear it, and a whole other thing to live through it. It's been a big adjustment for us, something we're still trying to adjust to.

But through it, I've learned that I can't just sit around waiting for Kyle to come home. I have to fill my time with things that genuinely bring me joy! My photography, the temple, crocheting, volunteering, reading! At BYU, I felt like my life had purpose - I was doing meaningful things with my job helping the first year students, with my pursuit of my degree, with my calling in the Church. But now that I'm done with school, I feel like I kind of lost that purpose. As I've slowly tried to find the thing that give me joy and fill my life rather than waiting for Kyle to fill it for me, I've felt that sense of meaning start to return. It's been nice! (But I'm definitely still looking for more things to do, so if you have suggestions, I'd love to hear them!) I've even found a few doctors' wives support groups like Side by Side and SAA that meet once a week or once a month. There'e nothing more valuable than a group of strong women who get what you're going through; no judgement, no explanations needed. They just get it.

Although it's been a big adjustment, Kyle and I both incredibly happy that we chose to come to San Antonio! We have a great church ward (congregation), Kyle loves the flipped classroom curriculum here at UIW, and we've met some truly fantastic people. There have been multiple times we've turned to each other over the last month and said "I'm so glad we chose to come here instead of {fill in the blank}". Yes, it's incredibly hot. Yes, chiggers are real (and awful). But we're where the Lord wants us. We wholeheartedly believe that we're where we're supposed to be. We're having fun and we're ready for this next adventure!

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